Top three ways to make friends in 2018
If I remember correctly, it was pretty easy to make friends back in elementary school. You’d walk into your kindergarten class, go up to one of the kids and ask, “do you want to be my best friend?” And it was pretty much settled. But what about when we grow up, get older and move to a new city? How do we make friends? Real friends? The let’s chill, watch Netflix and talk about all the amazing things we have in common kind of friends?
I recently moved to a new city and I’m in the process of making some new friends myself. Below I share my top three tips for making new friends, real friends and real connections. You may have heard this quote before, “you are the sum of the people you spend the most time with.” Your circle is so important and you should be surrounding yourself with people who lift you up, cheer you on and make you feel nothing short of amazing. I hope my tips not only help you meet new friends, but meet the right friends as well.
Tip #1 - Hang out at your favourite places
Go to the places that you’d normally go and put the intention out there (into the universe) that you want to meet a friend. When you’re doing stuff that you like, you’re bound to attract a like-minded friend who you have something in common with. Ask yourself, where do you like to go? What do you like to do? Is it yoga? Spin? Fitness classes? Cooking classes? Craft classes? Maybe you like to chill in a cafe and read a book? Go hang out at your favourite places and put that intention out there that you’d like to meet a friend and don’t be afraid to make the first move! Everyone’s afraid to make the first move, so I bet someone would really appreciate it if you did. I know striking up a conversation with someone random can be hard. But just practise, what’s the worst that can happen?
Tip #2 - Join a club or community
There are so many amazing communities and clubs online and offline that you can join to make new friends. This past summer, I launched an online community - the Soul Squad Community. It’s a 6-week yoga and meditation program that we work through together! I’ll be opening up registration again for new people VERY SOON and we start the program together on Monday, November 12, 2018. To help build and strengthen friendships and relationships within the Soul Squad Community, we will be offering a book club! Basically, we all read the same book together to help hold each other accountable. At the end of the six weeks, a few members of the Soul Squad will volunteer to hold a book club meeting in person and discuss the book because this is fun and such a great way to meet new friends. It doesn’t matter where you live, anyone can join the Soul Squad. If there aren’t a ton of Soul Squad members in your city yet, maybe you’ll be the one to volunteer to host a book club meeting! Another thing we’re doing within our online community is holding a worldwide gift exchange (we do have members of the Soul Squad in New Zealand, ya know! ;)) The great part about this gift exchange is that it doesn’t matter where you live. You will have the opportunity to mail someone a little gift and you’ll have the opportunity to receive one.
If you’re interested in joining the Soul Squad, you can put your name on the list to receive a notification when registration opens, just click here.
There are also many clubs and activities you can participate in within your community. Find out where the local run club meets up and join them one week! If running isn’t your thing, look for a club or community that offers something that sparks your interest. But I recommend getting outside your comfort zone and try something new!
Tip #3 - Try the app Bumble BFF
OK, did you expect me to throw this one out there?
To be honest, I have NOT tried Bumble BFF… yet?!
But, I have had countless friends recommend Bumble BFF. One of my friends who moved to Toronto said she met her BFF using the app! Another good friend of mine, Raegan Hedley, recently started working for Bumble Canada and she highly recommends the app as well. She’s hosted some pretty cool community events for Bumble Canada in Winnipeg, which has helped people make new friends in person too, which I thought was pretty cool.
I actually haven’t met anyone with a bad thing to say about Bumble BFF, which is why I’m including it as tip number three. If you give this app a try, let me know how it goes!
Best of luck making new connections! :)
“Your circle should want to see you win. Your circle should clap loudly when you have good news. If not, get a new circle.”